Ok this is going to be lengthy, so I'll probably make this a part one of my story and veiwpoint of weight training. Now understand I'm not against people who choose weightlifting to improve their appearance, I'm just pointing out that if you don't veiw it in it's proper perspective, it can mess you up psychologically. My father for most of his adult life was a novice bodybuilder. When he was a teen in the early sixties, he was very much like Mac in the ads. Skinny, pitiful, and with a lame haircut. Now his brother, who was a year older, was the oppossite, Tall, broad shouldered, and handsome. (did not work out btw, just had good genetics, I guess) My grandmother described him as being built like a trophy statue. My Dad was always turned down by girls(well, by good looking girls at least), Brother always had a date every friday night. To make matter worst, his brother knew this and always put him down constantly. As you can imagine, he had zero self confidence. This is where he had noticed that the girls he wanted to date were attracted to bigger, well built guys. This stuck with him, so he started to lift weights and diet to gain weight. He read bodybuilding magazines, manuals,and bought equipment to work out at home. By the time he married my mom, He was noticeably bigger and very narcissistic. without going into details here, but I believe part of the reason why my parents marriage fell apart was because of his false self esteem brought on by his obession with his physical appearance. Now he was a good father to me and my brothers, but the one thing I always held against him is the verbal abuse he laid on me about being skinny. He treated it like it was deformity, and was annoyed that I did not share his interests in bodyculture like my brothers did. To be honest the way he carried on about it turned me off to exercise. In fact I did not start working out until I moved out in my twenties(more about that later) Today, My Dad is in his mid sixties, still narccisstic, married 3x's, is barely able to work out because of his back injuries (3 surgeries), arthiritis, and other ailments. But he's depressed because he doesn't have a bodybuilder look anymore and thats caused some problems in his current marriage. This is why I don't care for weightlifting or the whole no pain, no gain mentality. Now I don't blame the bodyculture movement, because my fathers self esteem issues was the disease and weight lifting was just a symptom. This is one of the reasons why I use Bodyweight and self resistance exercises (end of part one)
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